Last Thanksgiving, I pulled off one of my best Thanksgivings ever.
Two days before the events (yes, because we end up doing multiple Thanksgivings because of reasons), I went in to have my remaining three wisdom teeth removed.
You did what?
Yes, I had my wisdom teeth yanked right before Thanksgiving.
It was the best.
I’m a bit of a diet stickler, so with my mouth in stitches, I couldn’t overeat.
Making small talk at the table? *mumbles something like ‘sorry, my mouth hurts, so I can’t talk’*
Awkward socializing? Didn’t have to, since my medication gave me very good reason to opt out and nap until everyone left.
Yeah, I know, I’m a scamp.
But Thanksgiving holidays are just hard.
They can be hard for everyone, and they’re hard for us.
It’s a break in routine, an extreme amount of effort, and there’s very little getting around the social effort.
Even in a time and set of situations that make me almost thankful, I find comfort in the small things:
– Hosting always gives me the grief, but at least we make good hosts and serve up a good spread.
– There are weeks I get anxiety about something as simple as dinner each night, but after Thanksgiving, I at least have some idea what we’ll be eating next week. (Korean turkey burritos? OK THEN!)
– And for all the talk about people dreading political banter at the table, it never happens with me — I’ve gotten good at shutting down conversations when I need to!
If you’ve got one of those relatives like me: be nice, gracious, and quick to leave or understand why we want to leave the quickest (hah!).
We’re thankful for people who get us and make it easier for everyone. We do try.
I don’t have any more wisdom teeth to pull this year.
So I’m going to try to be more than almost thankful.
3 thoughts on “The Life Autistic: Almost Thankful”
I have never had anyone ask me to host Thanksgiving before but like you; I am on the spectrum. I am actually surprised at how much more confidence I have now; especially since I started writing. I still dread social events like Thanksgiving because I know its going to be a lot of small talk and awkward conversation. I hope you have a good thanksgiving this year, my friend
Thank you kindly! I hope yours is well as well – best of luck with the new job venture also!
Thank you dude