Imagine you’re a horse.
A horse with a mission: “Run as fast as you can around this track three times.”
And off you start: saddle, blinders, gate, whistle – go.
The best horses run; they gallop with single-mind, pounding heart, focused and intentional.
But that focus isn’t always innate — that’s why they wear blinders. To keep their attention on the task at hand, to eliminate distractions, detractions from that mission, that task.
Now what if you’re next to this horse in the race and he jerks his body into you, slamming into your leg? Or maybe he veers right into you without noticing, shoving you off course?
Of course, you blame the horse, right? He should have been paying attention. He should have been more aware of his surroundings.
Now imagine you’re autistic.
Whether you give it or get it, sometimes you have a mission. It’s mundane. You, being normal, don’t understand why it’s so important to put away a pile of socks — but it IS.
Your focus narrows, your blinders are slipped aside your eyes, and off you work.
You don’t stop. You keep going. You’re not making the decision to ignore people or things. They’re not getting your attention. You’re barreling through people without seeing them as obstacles — you’re just not seeing them.
This is why people call us a thing, something that speaks to output and ignores the input.
Don’t call us that. We hate it.
Being ‘inconsiderate’ implies too much maliciousness, willful self-absorption, and frankly, that gives us too much credit. We’re not some haughty, off-putting villains.
We’re autistic. We’re focused. We have blinders. They’re just there.
We’re not excusing the output. We’re explaining the input.
We get that it can cause problems. Trust me, if I could yank the blinders off at will — I would.
Don’t blame the horse.
Perhaps reconsider what it is to be inconsiderate.