Sometimes the best things you can say to us are the things you choose not to say. Here’s a short list:
“Why can’t you just be normal?”
Because we’re not dishwashers and clothes dryers. It’s not a setting we can just switch to.
“You’re not really THAT autistic.”
I’m sorry that I’ve socially adapted to the point where you think my autism isn’t as prominent as you think it should be.
“I need you to grow up and get over it.”
Really? You think we’re somehow unaware of the illogic in our response to stimuli, frustrations, and otherwise outlandishly inconvenient meltdowns? Autism isn’t a maturity issue.
“You’re just using autism as an excuse for [insert something negative here].”
This is where I buy you a dictionary and educate you on the different connotations behind “reason” and “excuse.”
“Can’t you just use your autism to [do something here]?”
What are we, mutants? Autism and its perks aren’t just ‘powers’ we can trigger, sorry.
“I wish you got along with people better.”